Twelve Ways to Affirm Your Love for Your Wife

Husbands, do you affirm your love for your wife? Yes you love her, but do you affirm your love on a regular basis? Yes, it’s good to tell her you love her, but do you AFFIRM your love for her? I’m talking about the little things you did when you courted her. You did this in the past, but what about now? There should be regular and daily affirmation of love between spouses. The Bible says, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it” (Eph 5:25). Christ didn't just love the Church, He affirmed His love by giving His life for it.

This regular affirmation “sweetens the pot” and the relationship is better as result. Let me suggest 12 things you can do to affirm your love for her and make life better in your home:

1.   Tell her she looks great after she finishes her morning prep to go to work or to church or wherever.  In some cases she will be taken aback when this is heard but it will make her day.

2.   The next time you stop at the grocery store to pick up a few things, grab a small bouquet of flowers and put them in a vase in a prominent place where she will see them. You don’t have to spend a lot of money; it’s the thought that counts.

3.   Plan a weekend get-away for the two of you.  You make the reservations and plan everything.

4.   Make it a habit to open doors for her. This includes automobiles, restaurants, church, and everywhere else.

5.   Use Social Media to tell the world how wonderful she is.

6.   Put your arm around her and hold her close in church or anywhere else the two of you are sitting together.

7.   After a big meal let her relax and you do all the cleanup (load dishwasher, put food away, tidy up, etc.). Make this a habit.

8.   Hold her hand in public and private.

9.   Listen to her when she speaks. Be sensitive to her need of a listening ear. If you are working on the computer when she says something, turn around (away from the PC) to face her and give her your undivided attention.

10.   Treat her like a Queen. She is something special and needs to feel special because of you.

11.   Look for ways to compliment her. If she’s a good cook, tell her. When she comes home from getting her hair done, tell her she looks great. Brag on her privately and publicly.

12.   Take time to major on intimacy with her.